Workplace bullying is not about you, despite the fact that that is exactly how it feels to you in the moment. In order to effectively deal with workplace bullying, it is helpful to strive to gain some emotional distance from the situation.
Workplace bullying is the bully’s attempt to avoid his own deep, chronic driving fear. Recognizing this helps you take the focus off yourself and places it back on the bully, where it belongs.
You can learn to make and execute a plan for dealing with workplace bullying; try to avoid falling into a sense of hopelessness or despair.
Seek the emotional support of family and trusted friends in coping with workplace bullying; don’t allow feelings of shame or fear to force you into emotional isolation.
In confronting a bully, avoid mirroring his obnoxious behavior back to him. Take the high road; you’ll feel better about yourself for it.
The best way to deal with workplace bullying is by taking a calm, well-planned and mature assertive stance; you can master these skills with a little guidance and effort.
Maintain a journal of instances of workplace bullying: who, what, where, when and how. Keep it in a discreet place, preferably at home.
Approach the authorities in your company only as a last resort; though they are good people, they may be loath to get involved in a sticky situation.
If you do decide to approach the authorities, approach them in a calm and professional manner; avoid going in half-cocked or in an emotional state.
While quitting your job is always an option, use it only as a last resort. You’ll feel better about yourself in the long run by learning how to cope with workplace bullying.
Read excerpts from Dealing with Workplace Bullying.