A basic understanding of the root causes of emotional dependency from your childhood is essential in order to overcome those tendencies as an adult.
The powerful fears and terror that drive emotional dependency can be resolved and healed through compassion, openness and understanding.
That you didn’t get the type of nurturing you needed in order to have a firm emotional foundation for your personality is not your fault.
It is unlikely your childhood caregiver’s failures were due to malice or intent; they were doing the best they could, given who they were at the time. You will need to let them off the hook and forgive them at some point.
When driven by powerful, though poorly understood, forces, people will go to extremes in order to acquire a feeling of safety and security.
People who struggle with emotional dependency generally view themselves as badly used and taken advantage of by others. While this may well be true, there is more going on than meets the eye.
People who struggle with emotional dependency are often very willful and determined to get their way, though they rarely let it be know.
People who struggle with emotional dependency are often aware of feeling guilty, though they usually dismiss these feelings as irrational, commonplace or neurotic.
Unbeknownst to them, people who struggle with emotional dependency create real guilt for themselves almost all of the time.
Learning to understand, appreciate and cope with real guilt is what finally breaks to otherwise repetitive cycle of emotional dependency.