Certain people are always going to rub you the wrong way; you can learn to heal, or at least minimize, the impact those people have upon you. All you need are some new tools and the willingness to use them. Avoid falling into a sense of hopelessness or despair.
Stop blaming others, trying to change them or make them wrong; focusing on your own feelings, attitudes and behaviors is much more productive and rewarding.
Considering the random fashion in which you are thrown together with others at the workplace, it’s a wonder you get along with as many as you do!
When encountering rude or unprofessional behavior, don’t go off half-cocked, emotional or determined to give someone a dose of his own medicine. Wait until you have calmed down, formulated a plan and chosen the correct time and place prior to responding.
Confronting the inappropriate behavior of others in an assertive, mature and professional manner is a learned skill; you can learn it too.
Sometimes the impact someone at work has upon you is heightened when some aspect of you personal life is lacking: social, marital, personal, health, etc. Look to see how this lack may be amplifying your reactions.
Avoid the temptation to bad-mouth someone you don’t like; that kind of thing, though emotionally gratifying, always comes around to bite you in the end.
Maintain a journal of instances of rude or inappropriate behavior: who, what, where, when and how. Keep it in a discreet place, preferably at home.
Approach the authorities in your company only as a last resort. They are good people but are probably loath to get involved in what will likely be perceived as your personal problem.
If you do decide to approach the authorities, approach them in a calm and professional manner; avoid going in half-cocked or in an emotional state
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